“Treat those who harmed you with kindness, and forget both; they will be punished by their own shame.” I think I read that life-changing piece – for me at least – from the Bhagavad Gita, a Hindu Sacred/Philosophical book. The normal reaction to being hurt, very often, seems to be the opposite of forgiving and forgetting despite the old adage of “Forgive and forget”.
The basic modern human reaction seems to be to hurt the others more than one was even hurt in the first place. Paradoxically, didn’t someone say “An eye for an eye leaves the world blind?” That’s right, a bloke called Mahatma Gandhi did.
In today’s world full of aggression, trying to be a non-aggressive entity sounds contradictory. Why bother being kind if hardly anyone else d? Wouldn’t a lack of aggression be a sign of weakness? After all, only the strongest survive!
Strength; What is strength? The ability to hurt others before they can hurt or the ability to recognise that there is injustice being done and to stop it?
What is a display of strength finally? To act and destroy or to refrain from retaliating and instead letting go? Perhaps, if there is no hurt in the first place, wouldn’t there be a stop to hurting more than the initial hurt?
Often, one can be faced with such dilemmas, not knowing what to do or where to go, resulting in an overwhelming feeling of angst taking over. The feeling of losing one’s bearings in any situation can push one into fight-or-flight territory. Instinct, reflexes, will tend to push for a certain outcome while understanding, responses, will tend to lead towards another.
In most situations, the better way to respond may be to understand what happened; understanding the situation helps in understanding oneself.
If one understands their own functioning in different situations, is there any more cause left for worry?
None indeed; Only harmony.